Every year around this time, something shifts inside us as moms, especially for Guyanese moms who carry so much on their shoulders. We look back at everything we held together, everything we survived… and still, somehow, we forget one thing: ourselves. This is why self-care for Guyanese moms matters more than ever.
We scroll through photos of birthdays, school events, family outings, workdays, errands, chores, meals we prepared, tears we wiped, appointments we made… and we can point to everyone we showed up for.
But if someone asked us, “Where did you fit into all of this?”
Most of us would hesitate.
Not because we don’t matter, but because we’ve gotten so used to squeezing ourselves in last, or not at all.
And it’s not intentional.
Moms don’t wake up thinking, “Let me forget myself today.”
It just happens.
Quietly. Slowly. One rushed morning, one skipped meal, one cancelled plan, one tired yes after another.
Until months pass, then the whole year passes…
and we realize we’ve barely given ourselves space to breathe.
But maybe — just maybe — this doesn’t have to be another year where you disappear into the background of your own life.
Maybe this is the year you finally put yourself back on the list.
Not as an afterthought, not squeezed in between a hundred responsibilities.
And definitely not only when things settle down (because let’s be honest, they rarely do).
But intentionally.
Gently.
Like someone who deserves care too.
Because you do.
You deserve moments that aren’t rushed…you deserve small joys that belong to you…you deserve rest that isn’t earned by exhaustion…you deserve to feel like a person…not just a provider, caretaker, problem-solver, or planner.
And if you’ve been moving on autopilot for most of this year, that’s okay. So many moms have.
We’re so busy holding everyone else together that we don’t realize we’re unraveling slowly.
But the beautiful thing about endings is that they always make room for beginnings.
When the year wraps up, it gives you a chance to pause, breathe, and whisper to yourself:
“I want next year to feel different.”
Not perfect.
Not magical.
Just different in a way that makes you feel seen.
Why Self-Care for Guyanese Moms Can’t Wait Another Year
So many of us forget that self-care for Guyanese moms isn’t a luxury, it’s something we genuinely need to stay grounded. We carry so much for our families that we don’t notice how empty we feel until we finally slow down. And the truth is, we shouldn’t have to wait for exhaustion to remind us that we matter too.
As the year ends, it’s a good time to think about what self-care for Guyanese moms can look like in the new year.
Maybe next year, you’ll say no a little more.
You might finally choose rest instead of guilt.
There could be a moment where you buy yourself something without overthinking it.
You may even carve out five quiet minutes in the morning just to exist.
And perhaps you’ll start doing one small thing each week that genuinely brings you joy.
It doesn’t have to be dramatic.
A full transformation isn’t required.
Small changes still count, and they matter.
Sometimes the most powerful changes are the gentle ones.
And who knows…
Next December, when you look back again, things might look different.
You might see yourself in the memories, not just behind them.
So here’s a soft hope for you as the year ends:
May the new one be the year you stop disappearing.
The year you stop shrinking your needs.
The year you choose space… softness… and care for yourself, without apology.
The year you finally put yourself back on the list, mama.
You’ve earned that.
And you deserve it more than you know.
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